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You Are Not Your Mind

I spent the vast majority of my life believing that I was my mind – that my identity was contained in the organic storehouse between my two ears. This also meant that I was deeply attached to (even one with) that endless stream of thoughts, feelings, and emotions that my mind produces. But the simple […]

Growing vs Deepening

I think (and talk) a lot about personal growth. But recently I’ve tilted my thinking and aspirations more towards deepening. While we can debate over details (which I’ll touch on toward the end here), the way I consider “growing” is moving beyond the constraints that hold us back. Whether it’s challenges like resentment or jealousy […]

Words Fail; New Project

WORDS FAIL “God said, “Let there be light”; and there was light.” (Genesis 1:3). With words, creation began; and with words, separation began. Expulsion from divinity and wholeness was put into motion. The power of the word isn’t just Jewish, or even Judeo-Christian. In brief: In Judaism, the above line, and later: “By the word […]

Purim, Carnival, Anti-Structure

The Jewish holiday of Purim was last week – a fun story about a woman who hides the fact she’s Jewish when she marries the Persian King, but is convinced to come out of hiding just in time to save the Jews from annihilation. But… I want to dive into the obligation on Purim to […]

Three Butterflies

“Only a fool waits until death for reincarnation” – the Lubavitcher Rebbe. A few years ago, I bought a butterfly “kit” to do with my daughters. Basically it was a net container and a jar of caterpillars. After a week or two of crawling around aimlessly and eating, the caterpillars each formed a chrysalis hanging […]

Dishwashers and Love

I enjoy interpreting people’s dreams. Armed with no training other than a deep interest in people, a love of Carl Jung, access to internet, and a strong affinity for analogies, I like to leverage what I do have into interesting narratives that sometimes strike a chord (even if only with me!). This was one such […]

Pale Green Pants

I want to discuss the real meaning in one of my favorite kids’ stories: Dr. Seuss’ “What Was I Scared Of?”.   On the surface, it is a simple story of an unnamed yellow wisp of a protagonist being plagued by a terrifying pair of pale green pants with nobody inside them. To wit: Though […]

Embracing Heresy

[From the Archive note: This was originally three posts, but herein made it one] POST ONE I’ve been increasingly using the term “Jewish Heresy” to refer to my current path/framing, and I’m struck by the discomfort is seems to cause to almost everyone who hears it. Let me be clear: I view Heresy as the […]

How Do We Know What We Know

A friend was telling me recently about visiting the Monarch Butterfly “landing spot” (my weak term, not theirs) in Mexico recently.  These Monarchs fly 2,500 miles from Canada to a small plot of land in Mexico, but apparently they spend three generations in Mexico before heading back to Canada, where they return to the same tree […]

Life Lessons from a Swim Coach

I was a competitive swimmer for many years, including through college… but I don’t reflect on the act of swimming very often in my life today.  Sure, I grew through it, primarily physically, but also in discipline and team dynamics.  But nowadays, I find myself reflecting on two lessons taught many times by my swim […]